拒絕要有代替

越南癡情事件簿,今雖事過境遷,但往事並不如煙,桃花叢中遊刃不足,作孽有餘,自作自受,我怕上得山多終遇虎,reject得多現眼報,撫心自問哪裏可以做得更好?反覆思量,從最初的委婉推卻,到後來的不聞不問,過程上我沒做到“拒絕要有代替”,並非要pass the buck去找另一個冤大頭讓自己脫身,但對姐妹花總該有更佳的counter solution。只怪小弟愚昧,對於代替方案仍然毫無頭緒,難道寫信去《溫暖人間 - 問大師爲什麽》專欄,求法師開示?

話説回來,很久以前就聽過“拒絕要有代替”,但真的聽進去應該是去年佛光山短期出家,其中一位法師引述星雲大師說過“拒絕要有代替”。雖不是大師本人創作,但重點是廣結善緣,就算say no,也應該with a counter solution,那才不拒人於千里之外,替別人多想一步便是開方便之門,用得着固然好,用不着就當結緣。種善因得善果,搞不好某天也情願別人給自己counter offer甚至生路一條,而不是冷冰冰的"NO NO",風水輪流轉,誰敢保證?

 
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